give yourself some valentine love
















You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection. ~Buddha

We take care of our entire world with undivided attention during melt-downs, kisses on boo-boos, our drop everything and deliver that lunch left on the counter time, sure I can work a little longer today time and even that last drop of the day that maybe I can sit here and read time, but you can’t find your tennis shoes?  Ok, I’m coming time.

Where do we fit in this hurried, harried puzzle?  We are the only we there is.  It really is ok to sit and read and give ourselves the same love and attention we so devotedly give others.  I am just now figuring that out at 54, but everyday is a new day!

But how do we start giving ourselves some valentine love?


   FullSizeRender 5   #LOVE yourself by getting healthy!

For yourself and those you love.  Eat real, fresh foods that do a body good.  It isn’t a splurge.  Get moving and set aside time to exercise – claim it for yourself.  Figure out 45 minutes you can walk or go to the Y.  Have your gang walk with you after supper…whatever works.  You deserve it.  You can’t take care of others without taking care of yourself.  Like the stewardess in the rehearsed spill…put on your oxygen mask first before putting it on others.  Think of eating right and moving as your oxygen mask.



FullSizeRender 3 LET. IT. GO and Kiss ’em goodbye…

If a goober needs to be forgiven, do it.  Move on and let it go.  If you can’t do it for them, do it for you.  Yep, maybe someone did a terrible horrible no-good very bad thing.  Humans do unspeakable acts to each other and we won’t figure the reasoning in this lifetime.  Getting that apology all tied up in a bow will probably just not happen the way you would love to envision it.  Let. it. go.

Let it go. Not because they deserve it, but you do.  You do dear – you are worth a clear head freed of clutter and clear heart clutching compassion ready to move forward toward happiness and whole health.

Treat yourself like a BFF!  FullSizeRender 6

You treat others with little notes, small gifts, warm bear hugs and snuggly kisses.  What does that mean for you?  Whatever makes your heart sing a little happy song….it can begin with baby steps.


  • A Starbucks coffee on the way in to work or running those errands
  • Start by taking 15 minutes at the end of the day to claim as your own – set them as sacred. Your Just a Minute Moments!  Sitting by your favorite window with a cup of tea, a hot bath, a brisk walk, reading in your cozy spot…it is surprising what claiming this time and treating yourself with special care will do.
  • Bring out the best china for your breakfast plate.  What are you saving it for – someone special?  That is you!
  • A weekend away?  Do it.


  FullSizeRender 4Don’t compare – you are wicked cool!

This message can get smushy in our heads like this one on the candy.  Work on keeping it clear…there is only one you – unique and precious!

Remember Mr. Roger’s song?

It is you I like

It’s not the things you wear,

It’s not the way you do your hair,

But it’s you I like.

The way you are right now,

The way down deep inside you,

Not the things that hide you,

Not your toys, they’re just beside you.

But it’s you I like, every part of you,

Your skin, your eyes, your feelings,

Whether old or new,

I hope that you’ll remember

Even when you’re feeling blue

That it’s you I like,

It’s you yourself, It’s you,

It’s you..I…like!

Fred Rogers, Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood

    FullSizeRender 2  Know your value – surround yourself with folks who are NUTS 4 YOU!

You deserve to be treated with dignity and kindness and compassion, just as you are with no judgement.  How would you want your best friend treated?  Care for you with such tenderness, surrounding yourself with those who know your value.

Hug that uniqueness and realize there is only one you and you are amazing just the way you are!

Happy Valentine’s Day to you with a big bear hug!